I learned by living with my stepbrothers and sister that it is who you live with that influences your life. The old saying that if you lie down with dogs you will get fleas works the opposite way too. After I left home I was also influenced by a young German from Minnesota. He did everything right just as Gladys, David and Diane had done, I was not influenced by Ron and Jerry as they were very young. Everyone is a teacher in simple ways. My sister was a rebel as I was, we were given a bad deal and we just lived with it as best we could. I put up a strong callused wall and my sister rebelled.
I read books while I was in the service about art and philosophy. I had a feeling that I was right but it never occured to me. Motherly love opened up my mind as I was gently moved toward the celebration of life.
For those of you that do not get it just find a nice human being and hang on for the ride.